Fellows Book Online Version 2020

15 And I said to Colin “Look Colin I told you about one thousand things in three years and you never listen to any of them and now the only one that you listened to is when I told you, you should sack the manager after three years, thank you very much.” Anyway, I went home, I started crying, I felt really depressed for about a week. I didn’t want to talk to anybody. I blamed myself, I blamed the club, and then I felt insecure and I lost all my confidence. And then I decided to call one of my mentors and spoke to him about it and he said “Look Luca, stop doing that. You need to start analysing the situation without getting blinded by your emotions. You need to be honest to yourself and more importantly you need to start asking yourself the hard question, no alibis, no excuses, ask yourself the hard question: How did you do?” I then realized that I made mistakes. For example, my relationship with the players wasn’t the best, I was young and inexperienced, and I was expecting them to help me while they were expecting me to help them. So, I realised I made mistakes and I did a good analysis by asking myself the hard questions and, so, I then realized that failure is part of the process. If you want to be successful you need to know what failure is. Michael Jordan says all the time in a fantastic advert “I’ve failed a thousand times and this is why I succeeded”. In football we have a way of saying unless you have been sacked once you’re not really a manager. Giovanni Trapattoni, another legendary manager, says that there are two types of managers: the one that has been sacked already and the ones are about to be sacked, but they don’t know about it. I believe leaders cannot control everything and they need to understand that there are some things not in their control. I really believe that if we start seeing things in this way we never lose. I like this saying; we never lose, we either learn or we win, we win, or we learn something, and you never lose. I think the normal thing is to be better today than you were yesterday, and I want to finish with this saying, another thing I strongly believe. There is not failure out there, only setbacks. If you’re strong you can get back and be stronger than you were before you had the set back. Thank you very much.